Monday, July 20, 2015

Featured Guest Author : Jay Northcote is Interviewed by Mark on her Nathan and Owen Series (Includes Giveaway)

Jay Northcote

After reading both Nathan and Owen books, well listened to one and read the other, I had a few questions. Especially with attitudes regarding dating and marriage so read on to find out how I put Jay through her paces and don’t forget to enter the giveaway.


An Interview with Jay

Mark: In the first book, The Dating Game, I just loved the novel idea of Nathan getting Owen, who is essentially a tart, to go out on a number of dates with him before having sex. Do you think the whole idea of dating is rather Victorian like Owen does or is there still a place for such traditional values in today's society?

Jay: I’m not sure I see dating as a Victorian thing, but I’ve always viewed it as an American thing. I have to confess that I’ve never really been on a date. When I was a teen/young adult in the late 80s, early 90s dating wasn’t something that people really did in the UK. I met my husband through mutual friends and we were always part of a group when we socialised. I met my previous boyfriend in a similar way. But that was in the days before online dating. I would say that these days, dating seems to actually be coming into fashion in the UK rather than the other way around. I can certainly see the advantage of getting to know someone that way, although I think the social awkwardness of the situation might ruin my chances of making a good impression!

Mark: Owen changes his mind about the whole thing and discovers something more valuable than he had known before. Do you think that dating someone cements a relationship better before jumping in the sack?

Jay: I would imagine so? Again – see my reply above about never having dated anyone. With both of the serious relationships in my life we went from friends to lovers. But I think if I was getting to know someone new with a view to having a relationship, I would probably want to get to know them a little before leaping into bed. Then again... fuck-buddies to lovers can be fun too and I’m not sure I’d want to wait five dates before sampling the goods.

Mark: Why did you choose to publish The Dating Game as an audio book?

Jay: Because I think audio is a really exciting and fast-growing part of the m/m market. It’s still fairly niche, many of the smaller publishers aren’t making audiobooks yet and I liked the idea of getting in relatively early. Dreamspinner were putting some of my other titles into audio, and I was really keen to get my self-published stuff into audiobook format too. ACX (the audiobook creation exchange) makes it very easy for indie authors to record audiobooks, although there was a significant financial outlay for me in paying my (excellent) narrator, Matthew Lloyd-Davies. But I thought it was a risk worth taking.

Mark: Do you listen to audio books yourself?

Jay: Yes. I’m a recent convert and I really enjoy them. They’re great when I’m driving, running or cleaning the house.

Mark: In the second book the whole issue of marriage comes up. Is your idea of marriage more Owen's or Nathan's?

Jay: Haha! I was definitely Owen in that scenario. I never wanted to get married, but my (now) husband is more traditional than me and I knew he was keen... but I think he was scared to ask because he knew my opinion. Just like Owen, I got myself engaged in a moment of enthusiasm/drunkenness after a night at the pub and then had terrible cold feet before the wedding. But after almost sixteen years of marriage we’re still going strong so I have no regrets!

Mark: The stress about getting married with the planning, everything that needs to be taken into consideration, etc. how was it for you? Did everything go OK or would you care to share any funny anecdotes that happened?

Jay: Things mostly went pretty smoothly for us. We did all our own wedding planning and it was a fairly simple day. We had a small civil wedding at the registry office in the morning, then lunch with close family. Then in the evening we had a big party for all our friends and family. We hired a hall, booked a band and had a ceilidh/barn dance. It was a really great day.

There is a tragic lack of funny anecdotes, but I have a good one for a different wedding that I went to a few years later if that counts?

My three-year-old son was obsessed with animals at the time and he was bored and wriggling on my knee. I thought he’d zoned out during the service, but when the officiant made the speech asking if anyone knew of any ‘just impediments’ his little ears perked up and he said (very loudly and clearly) – “Did someone say something about elephants?”

Everyone fell about laughing (including the bride and groom) and my husband and I nearly died of embarrassment.

Mark: What do you think about meddling mums when it comes to wedding arrangements? More hindrance than help?

Jay: I imagine they can be rather nightmarish. Thankfully neither my mother nor my mother-in-law got involved with ours at all. They were quite happy to leave it up to us and just turn up on the day.

Mark: In the Marrying Kind Owen's mum and dad are divorced, his dad not being a likable person and Nathan's parents / family are all still happily together. Do you think that Owen and Nathan's different perceptions have been influenced by their childhood experiences? If so how far would go in saying that is the case generally and not only in fiction?

Jay: In my story Owen was definitely affected by his family background when it came to his views on marriage and his beliefs about himself. He had to realise that he wasn’t the same as his dad, and learn to trust his ability to make a commitment and keep it. I’m sure our childhood experiences always affect us on some levels, but exactly how that influence manifests itself is totally individual. While for some people, coming from a broken home like Owen might make them doubt their ability to commit; for another person it might make them all the more determined to do things differently.

Mark: So the boys are now hitched? Where is there to go now with the both of them? Hopefully not the `D` word.

Jay: I’m confident that Owen will make the distance, so I can safely say their ending is a happily-ever-after one. If I were to revisit the characters, I think it would be to see them as parents. Nathan’s a little broody, and in The Marrying Kind, Owen showed his potential as a parent when he supported his sister through a difficult time. I like to imagine a future where Owen and Nathan have a child together somehow, but I’m not sure whether I’ll actually write it. But I never say never.

Thank you, Sinfully Addicted, for hosting me and for the great questions.

Jay XX



Purchase Links & Reading Order

1) The Dating Game (Nathan & Owen #1)





2) The Marrying Kind (Nathan & Owen #2)





Meet Jay Northcote


Jay lives just outside Bristol in the West of England, with her amazing, occasionally ridiculous husband, two noisy-but-awesome children, and two cats.

Jay comes from a family of writers, but she always used to believe that the gene for fiction writing had passed her by. She spent years only ever writing emails, articles, or website content. One day, she decided to try and write a short story–just to see if she could–and found it rather addictive. She hasn’t stopped writing since.

Jay writes contemporary gay romance, usually set in or near her home town of Bristol. She enjoys the challenge of bringing the men in her head to life through her words







Jay is offering the chance for one lucky winner to choose any book from her backlist. Just enter the Rafflecopter giveaway below.

Good Luck XX

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  1. Great interview! I share Owen's views really, I do not believe in marriage that much (although my parents are still happily married 45 years later!). I believe in personal commitment more than in the necessity of getting a "proper" bound... But that's always open to negotiation and agreement. ;)

  2. I believe in marriage for myself, but am happy to let everyone else make their own choices! We are all individuals and not everything that works for me or that I believe in is going to work for someone else!

  3. Well, I am American, so I'm sure that colors my beliefs. I do think that getting to know someone helps to make for a more successful marriage. However, I've met some people who got married within a few months and are still together, so what do I know? :)

  4. I may be a little old-fashioned but I totally love the idea of dating and taking the time to really know each as one step on the way of commitment. In my opinion, marriage is another step, kind of a public enactment of the will you have to commit to one another in a couple and work together to try to build a new family. It may not be the HEA promised in the fairytales, it may not last forever and ever, but I feel marriage still has value in our modern world.
    Thanks for the chance at the giveaway!

  5. great blog post today. i feel marriage is the next step in the relationship as long as both parties agree

  6. For myself, dating and then marriage have worked well (so far 26 years and counting...why, yes, I did get married young ;-)). But, I do not believe at all that what I want is what everyone should want. People should do what works for them and their SO (if they have one or more).

  7. I just have my 31st wedding anniversary, so I love the idea of marriage. But I know that it's not for everyone. That everyone needs to find their own path to their HEA.

  8. I believe in marriage and married twice. First marriage was doomed from the start, but I made a commitment before God and family and I tried to make it work. 18+ years later, I divorced him. Met my future husband 5 years and much personal growth later. We were together 20+ years; he died late last summer. So, I'm firmly in the pro-marriage camp. But that is only MY personal view. Love is love, no matter who you love or what your views on marriage are. I strongly believe in a person's right to chose what's best for them.

  9. This seems like a really mature book, I'm really looking forward to it.

  10. I like marriage, but weddings annoy me...


  11. I believe in marriage and the commitment a couple make to each other by getting married. I'm not a fan of big weddings though. A Justice of the Peace and a couple of witnesses is good enough.

  12. I only knew my husband for 6 months, we've been married 24 years. Everyone is different. I'm pretty relaxed, if commitment is right for two people then go for it. Thanks for the great interview!!!! Loved it!!! Thanks for the giveaway!!!

  13. I believe in marriage, I just haven't met the right person for me :) And I am not a fan of big weddings at all and in fact my dream wedding is going to Vegas and getting married by a midget Elvis impersonator.

  14. I believe in marriage, but I also understand that others may not and it's not for everyone.

  15. I think marriage is great, but not for everyone.

  16. I Believe in marriage but like me I live with someone and I never marry I like it the way it is

  17. I read and really enjoyed both of these books. I am definitely more on Owen's view but can see the other side as well. Has never been on my list of things to do but I sure do love seeing great ones happen

  18. I think marriage can be great for some people but it's not for everyone. A majority of the people my family know are all happily married.

  19. Nice interview, great way to get to know the series.

  20. I was married for 28 years so I did like being married but I also know that marriage does not make the relationship. Whatever works for the people involved go for it.