Wednesday, June 07, 2017

Review: Their Life As They Live It (Perspectives #4) by A.M. Arthur

Their Life_1800x2700_eBookTitle ~ Their Life As They Live It (Perspectives #4)

Author ~ A.M. Arthur

Publisher ~ Briggs-King Books

Published ~ 7th May 2017

Genre ~ Contemporary M/M Romance





“Happiness is not a goal…it is a by-product of a life well lived.”
--Eleanor Roosevelt
Bernard “Bear” Henson is a blessed man. He is happily married to the love of his life, he co-owns a successful business, and his grown son is desperately in love with a wonderful partner. But Bear knows all too well how precarious that happiness is, so he lives every day with love in his heart and gratitude for everything he has—especially his husband Richard Brightman. Richard has been HIV-positive for thirty years and every new day is a gift.
When Richard becomes unexpectedly ill and is rushed to the hospital, Bear braces for his beautifully constructed life to come crashing down. A hard-won life full of ups and downs, illnesses and setbacks, love and anger, and a lot of regret for how certain things went down. Certain things involving Bear’s alcoholic ex-wife Debbie and the start of Bear’s relationship with Richard. But the past can’t be changed, only remembered and studied.
As Richard fights for his life, Bear reflects on the last thirty years of their entwined lives. College days, his shotgun wedding to Debbie, his unexpected feelings for Richard, and the proudest moment of Bear’s life: the birth of his son Gabriel. Bear’s life with Richard is woven with love, heartache, regret, joy, and everything else in between. They’ve overcome every obstacle that’s come their way, and they’ll overcome this new illness, too. Period. Bear simply isn’t ready to live his life without Richard in it.
Note: This is the fourth book in my Perspectives series, and while it can be read as a standalone, readers will have a much richer concept of these characters if you’ve at least read book two, The World As He Sees It. Warnings for spousal abuse (not between the two heroes) and cheating.


Debra’s Review

This fourth book in the Perspectives series focuses on Bear and Richard, Gabriel’s dads and the owners of Big Dick’s club, and is now my favorite in the series. We’ve seen Bear and Richard as supporting characters, especially in Gabe and Tristan’s story (The World As He Sees It) and while you could read this as a standalone or the first in the series, I think you would get so much more out of it if you at least read that one first.

The story starts out in the present day with Richard being hospitalized. Living with HIV for 30 years, the fear over his illness is very real and as Bear stays with Richard in the hospital we are treated to his memories of the important moments in their lives together. Bear and Richard have known each other since they became roommates their junior year in college in 1986, when Bear was dating Gabriel’s mother Debbie. If you’ve read the prior books, you already know a bit of what the three went through from Gabriel’s POV, but here we get to see Bear and Richard falling in love as Bear’s relationship with Debbie crumbles and her alcoholism consumes her. Since this is A.M. Arthur a lot of the times are difficult (there is a warning for scenes of cheating and spousal abuse), but all of them helped build the amazing relationship the men have together and with their son.

Bear and Richard are both amazingly loving and generous men, but here we get to see that they are not perfect. Bear has some regrets over the way his relationship with Debbie played out and the suffering inflicted on Gabriel that he was unable to prevent and he owns his part in it. It packs an emotional punch to read about Bear’s anguish at not being able to give Richard the relationship he deserved and as a father just trying to do the best thing for his child, but not being able to shield him from everything that happens. This protective streak is evident when we first see him taking care of Richard in college before he even realized how much he loved the man. The romance is also a huge part of the story, with a heavier focus on the emotional bond than the physical.

I thought the story moved smoothly between past and present and did a good job of dealing with the heavy issues without ever losing sight of the fact that this is first and foremost a love story. Of course Gabriel and Tristan also play a part in this book. I absolutely adore them and if you’re a fan too you’re going to want to see what they have going on in their lives as well.

I want to take a moment to point out the details on the cover, with the photographs depicting the characters it really sets the tone for the story. This is an emotional tale with a focus on finding unexpected love and working to keep it strong and on family – the good and the bad. Bear and Richard’s story is guaranteed to tug at your heart. For those who haven’t read A.M. Arthur’s stories before, this would be a perfect place to start and if you’re a fan of this series you are definitely going to want to read it.

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The Perspectives Series

the truth as he knows itThe Truth As He Knows It (Book #1)

Lies are the chains that keep you weighed down at rock bottom.
Officer Noel Carlson isn’t out to anyone in small-town Stratton, Pennsylvania, only to distant friends and family, so a relationship is out of the question. That doesn’t stop him from wanting one, though.

When a night-shift call brings him face to thonged butt with a hired stripper whose girl-party gig went terribly wrong, Noel takes pity on the guy and lets him go. But he can’t get the encounter out of his mind.

Shane has big-time debts to repay, especially to the brother who sacrificed nearly everything for him. His two jobs, in a deli and as a stripper, leave him no time for a social life. But a non-date of hot sex and takeout food with Noel? He can squeeze that in.

The bond they form is stronger than either expected or wanted. Especially since the step Shane’s about to take to put his brother—and his soul—back in the black isn’t quite legal. And he never calculated just how much his determination to make things right will cost him in the end.

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the world as he sees itThe World As He Sees It (Book #2)

Love knows no limits…but fear could keep them from seeing it.
Gabe lives a double life. As Gabriel Henson, he works multiple jobs to support his remorseless, alcoholic mother. As Tony Ryder, he does internet porn for extra cash and regular safe sex without complications. But when he encounters a scared young man freaking out in a night club, he’s compelled to reach out. Ever since then, the memory of that young man has haunted him.
Tristan Lavalle lives his life thirty minutes at a time. After a traumatic brain injury three years ago, he gets through his day recording his life in spiral notebooks and sticky note reminders. A month after Tristan’s embarrassingly public meltdown, another chance meeting with Gabe sparks a warm, emotionally fulfilling email relationship. Both men crave more, but fear of the next step stands between them.
And then Tristan gets the opportunity to take part in a clinical trial that could improve his memory—if the side effects don’t kill him. But for Tristan, the possibility of a real life with Gabe is worth any risk…
Note: This book was previously published by Samhain Publishing. No significant changes have been made to this edition. Please read with tissues handy.

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the heart as he hears itThe Heart As He Hears It (Book #3)

Love can slip through the smallest crack in the door.

While most of his friends have moved on to “real” careers, Jon Buchanan is content skating through life as a part-time waiter and gay porn star. Firmly single thanks to a previous relationship disaster, he focuses his spare time on Henry, a dear friend dying of cancer. And with Henry’s happiness paramount, Jon is on a mission to help Henry meet his recently discovered grandson.
Isaac Gregory hasn’t set foot outside for the past year. He has everything he needs delivered, and his remaining family knows better than to visit. When a complete stranger shows up claiming to be his grandfather—with a distractingly handsome younger man in tow—his carefully structured routines are shaken.
Despite his instant attraction, Jon senses Isaac is too fragile for a relationship. Yet tentative friendship grows into genuine companionship. And when Henry’s health begins to fail, they realize Fate brought them together for a reason.

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Meet A.M. Arthur

No stranger to the writing world, A.M. Arthur has been creating stories in her head since she was a child and scribbling them down nearly as long. She credits an early fascination with male friendships and "bromance" (and "The Young Riders") with her later discovery of and subsequent affair with m/m romance stories. When not writing, she can be found in her kitchen, pretending she's an amateur chef and trying to not poison herself or others with her cuisine experiments




  1. I can't wait to read this one! I loved both the others I've read (or listened to) in this series and Bear & Richard are definitely "extras" that are hard to forget! <3

    1. It was really fantastic Lora. It expands on everything you like about them so far.