We are thrilled to welcome Avylinn Winters to Sinfully today as she celebrates the release of Volatile, book #1 in the Treacherous Chemistry. Go check out her guide on How to become your own worst enemy and don’t forget to enter the giveaway.
A how-to guide—become your own worst enemy.
Hi everyone, I’m really happy to be here at Sinfully today to bring you this excellent 4 step guide how to become your own worst enemy. I’m Avylinn Winter, or Avy if you’re sparse with syllables, and I’ve had years of practice and a degree or three. I’ve also just published my first novel Volatile which is touches the theme of self-sabotage.
I’ll go through this in a few simple steps that you all must be dying to try out. Since this is a book blog, I’ll focus on writing in particular, but many of these steps are universal and are useful in everyday situations.
1. Doubt yourself. This step is rather straightforward. Simply question everything you’re doing and wonder if you’re making the right choices. This is applicable to all parts of your life. It’s a marvelous measure to ensure that you’ll be your enemy forever because who trusts their enemy? It becomes a circular argument and you can keep second-guessing yourself endlessly. This step comes naturally to a lot of us.
2. Build hurdles. Hurdles can be anything, really. They can be high as a threshold or tall as a sky scraper. The higher they are the better. Hurdles built by others do not count. Be a hurdle maker. It’s fun!
3. Compare yourself. Begin reading the top novels of your genre and compare. Take notes, and make sure they’re thorough. Read about these authors’ success stories and do not for any reason go back and read their earlier works. Then, go back and look at your own writing and evaluate. Also, read Nobel prize winners and be like them. No need of thinking outside the box or create new paths to walk.
4. Care about what everyone thinks. Read every review and try to make everyone happy, because remember, you want to become your own worst enemy, not anyone else’s. Their opinions are valid and you should listen and adjust no matter the cost.
I’m working hard on these steps every day. However, there’s a point to this story, and that is that I love happy endings. Perhaps there’s some way to turn this around.
The benefit of being your own worst enemy is that you’re constantly exercising your imagination which you need if you want to be a writer. Real or imagined hurdles can be close to fiction, and if you think of something especially nasty, you can include it in one of your novels.
The important part to remember when you’re an ace at these steps is to realize what you’re doing. For instance, you can continue despite all these doubts. You can learn to make decisions even if you wonder if they’re the right ones. If you build hurdles, you can easily turn them down and continue. You can become a better writer if you read, analyze and strive to reach the next level. Find inspiration, but remember that what others do won’t necessarily work for your voice. Let others’ opinions help when you find them valid and disregard those that don’t apply. Writers may care for their readers, but most of all we should care about ourselves and what we believe is right.
I excel at throwing myself for a loop, but I’m slowly earning to walk around it all. Volatile wouldn’t have been what it is today without all these doubts. Chris, my main character, is more or less plagued with conflicting thoughts, and he’s a master at self-sabotage until he finally reaches through those insecurities. Because at the end of the day, it’s all about learning how to cope and how to turn weaknesses into strengths. Don’t be let your enemy define you, even if that voice comes from within.
I try my best, even if that also means to laugh about my stupid thoughts once in a while. Since I didn’t really talk so much about Chris, and nothing about Dante, just know that excerpts are available and that it’s an angsty story that’s ridiculously sweet once I’ve torn your heart out.
Hugs for everyone!
(Treacherous Chemistry Book 1)
Publisher ~ Pride Publishing
Published ~ 23rd August 2016
Genre ~ Contemporary M/M Romance
Like a depressed moth drawn to a wild flame, Chris hoped that flame would brighten his life, not burn him alive.
Chris Sinclair fades into a grey world after losing his mother to cancer. When forced to attend a concert as a last attempt to coax him out of his shell, he discovers that life might not be as bleak as he first thought.
Dante Heron holds the audience between the tips of his fingers and the delicate bow, playing the violin as if every heart is his to command. However, something darker brews behind the façade, and Chris is determined to solve the enigma.
When Chris is offered the job of traveling around Europe with the famous violinist, he surprises himself by accepting. With no idea what awaits him, he's thrown into a world where emotions rule and rules are bent.
They're a perfectly dysfunctional match, but then there's always calm at the heart of the storm.
The Violinist (Now called Volatile), won a Watty award in 2015 in the LGBT+ category. The Wattys is the world’s largest online writing contest hosted once a year by Wattpad.
Meet Avylinn Winter
Raised in one of the cold corners of the world, Avylinn spends her days either wrapped up in a blanket or basking in the precious sunlight. When she can’t choose herself, she’s holed up in an office working with climate research that has little to do with the worlds and characters she creates in her vivid dreams.
Always the emotional one, she has found her outlet in writing, voicing thoughts, emotions and fears through her characters that feel very much alive to her. And, what began as a hobby soon took more and more time in her life until she realized that she had left her old life behind and entered a new one where her emotions turned into a super power—ready to launch at her poor readers.
She recharges with the help of coffee, cinnamon buns, popcorn and occasionally a healthier alternative.